Finding Your Tribe in a World That Distorts You

How I stopped speaking into distortion and started transmitting into coherence.

For a long time, I was talking to the wrong people.

Not because I didn’t care. Not because I wasn’t clear.
But because I was trying to bring signal into a field that couldn’t yet receive it.

When I began speaking publicly—sharing nervous system truth, ancestral intelligence, signal-based trauma insight—I was still tied to the orbit of the true crime community. It was my fiancé’s field, and by proximity, I thought perhaps it could become mine, too. So I tried. I showed up with integrity, with care, with truth.

But something kept misfiring.
I wasn’t being heard.
I was being consumed.

I was being watched by people addicted to pathology, not healing. People fascinated by trauma, but allergic to repair. People who hadn’t metabolized their own pain, so they turned other people’s pain into content.
And I don’t say this in judgment.
I say it as someone who knows exactly what a dysregulated field feels like.

And I knew—deep in my body—it wasn’t mine.

The Frequency Shift

It happened slowly at first.
A nudge to leave, a pull to speak elsewhere.

And then, something opened.
I made a TikTok.
I stopped speaking to who I thought I should reach.
And I started transmitting for the ones already attuned.

Not the fans.
Not the trauma consumers.
But the coherence carriers.
The ones who feel what I mean, not just think it.

And suddenly, everything changed.

Messages from people around the world.
People in the Netherlands, the U.S., Eastern Europe, South America—people I don’t know personally, but whose signal matches mine.
People who speak field, who live rhythmically, who are healing systems—not performing identities.

They’re not my “audience.”
They’re my frequency family.

How to Find Your Tribe (for real)

The truth is, your “tribe” is not a demographic.
It’s not a niche, a market, a comment section.

It’s a field match.
And to find them, you have to do one thing above all else:

Be coherent enough to stop performing for who doesn’t match you.

Here’s what I’ve learned:

• If you feel drained after sharing, you're not in your field.
• If you have to explain your humanity, you’re not with your people.
• If you’re being consumed instead of heard—it’s not your audience.

Your true community won’t make you shrink.
They won’t mock your nervous system awareness or dismiss your womb.
They’ll find you and say: “Yes. I’ve felt this too. I thought I was alone.”

And that’s how the field begins to braid.

A Field, Not a Following

I’m not here to go viral.
I’m here to become visible to the ones who are ready to remember.

The ones building new culture.
The ones who compost their trauma.
The ones who speak from the gut, not from branding.

And I want to say this clearly:
It’s okay to leave the spaces that don’t match you.
Even if they were part of your story.
Even if they made you feel seen once.

If the coherence isn’t there now, let it go.

You don’t need to be understood by the wrong frequency.
You need to keep broadcasting your truth until the right field responds.

And when it does—it’s unmistakable.
Like warmth on the skin after years of winter.

We’re Already Finding Each Other

If you’re reading this, and you feel it—not just in your mind but in your bones—you’re not alone.

We’re already gathering.
In voice notes.
In posts that don’t perform.
In rituals that don’t need a name.
In comments that feel like altar offerings.
In TikToks that feel like transmissions.
In eye contact, breath, and the knowing that this is not performance.

It’s remembrance.
And it’s happening.

We are not building community.
We are recognizing each other.

One signal at a time.